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There ain’t no man-can save me
There ain’t no man-can enslave me
Ain’t no man or men that can change the shape my soul is in
There ain’t nobody here who can cause me pain or raise my fear
Cause I got only love to share
If you’re looking for truth I’m proof you’ll find it there

You got to serve something, ain’t that right?
I know it gets dark, but there’s always a light
You don’t have to buy in to get into the club
Trade your worries
You gotta show up if you wanna be seen
If it matters to you ma, it matters to me

I’m going to fall hard, yeah I know I am
When the crowds crack up, I laugh with them

– Exerpt Ain’t No Man, Avett Brothers




Stop being afraid of what could go WRONG


and think of what could go RIGHT





“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

-Maya Angelou

Let’s all aim for this!


Or at least…


This job’s a pain-it’s so mundane, It sure don’t stimulate my brain

I bet most of us have had a love/hate relationship with a job, or at least a tolerate/hate relationship.

You know, where one day is like


and the next is like


Sometimes it’s the actual work


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 Sometimes it’s your coworkers


Usually we can grit our teeth and bare those difficult days, but if everyday makes you feel

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or just


it’s time to


Think it though, but remember no job is worth feeling utterly miserable.  It’s scary but make a change.


and get a new job! Believe me, it is so worth it!

Title by Shania Twain

Alright My Dears,

For some reason I awoke in a bizarrely positive, upbeat and happy mood.  I am trying to pass that on to others by smiling and in general letting my happy show (but not in an obnoxious way).  There you are; if this usually cynical, doom and gloom girl can one day wake up and just feel okay and cheery, even though nothing spectacularly new, exciting, or special happened YOU CAN TOO!  OK no more personal crap!


Happy dance montage… GO!

Happy Talk: The Origin Story

When I was young, going to school made me terribly anxious.  It may have been the math, the milk in bags at lunch (Milk should never be in bags!) or perhaps the classmate who ate my grape Lipsmackers, who knows, regardless come Sunday those butterflies in my stomach were getting quite a work out.  My mother, being the wise woman that she is, devised a plan to help me ease my queasiness: Happy Talk.

Ours was a theatrically inclined family, stay with me here this is going somewhere, so “Happy Talk”*, a song from Rodgers and Hammerstein’s South Pacific, was something I could easily visualize and sing in my head to calm me.  Without closing my eyes I could see Bloody Mary and her daughter Liat singing “Happy Talk”.  Not only was it a happy, upbeat tune and the chorus very heartening but it was sung by a mother and daughter, so I could also visualize singing it with my mom.  Mind you at that time I did not realize that Bloody Mary and Liat did not have the greatest relationship nor that after that song the musical becomes less cheerful, but I digress.  I did find the song soothing and it even had a handy hand gesture to go with it.  You would place your pointer finger and thumb together and open and close them like they are talking. Now I had several things I could do, using different senses, when those butterflies started.  I could visualize the scene from the movie, hear the song on my head, or discreetly do the hand gesture.  Bloody brilliant my mother is.

Why in the heck did I make you read all this?  Because this is a technique that I still use today when I am in a tough situation and it is an inopportune moment to scream or fall to pieces.  I take a moment and sing in my head, or if I can be alone, say the words out loud.  I find this soothing and it gives me something to focus on while I pull it together.  I have a few other phrases from songs that I use now besides “Happy Talk.”  They are small bits of songs that I really like or that have complicated rhythms or lyrics that really take my complete focus.  Here is an example, “Let It Go”, yes, from the Disney movie.  I usually use this when I am super angry and dwelling on some injustice done to me.  I can visualize Elsa making her little puffs of frosty magic, hear Idina Menzel belting out “Let it go, Let it go; I am one with wind and sky.” It usually brings the “saying something I might regret” danger level from code red to code yellow. So try it, see if it might help you.  Stay with positive songs and/or things that might make you laugh, let’s not make things worse with “Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I’ll go eat worms” shall we.

In a nutshell, hopefully this ↓

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Will lead to this ↓


In order to prevent this ↓



If you try it and it works let me know.


*Here is a link to the song Happy Talk


And then I don’t feel so bad…

MY Favorite Things

(to the tune of… My Favorite Things by Rodgers and Hammerstein)

Leverage on Netflix
And dresses on Pinterest.

Sinks with no dishes
And loans with no interest.

Shawn Spencer and Gus
And the hijinks Psych brings.

These are a few of my favorite things.


Lots of free time
With new books on my shelf.

Silly Lifetime movies
I watch by myself

Bear that calms down
When its cute tushy swings

These are a few of my favorite things.


When my day sucks
No escaping
When I’m feeling sad

I simply remember my favorite things
And then I don’t feel so bad.


Make a list of your favorite things and then maybe you won’t feel so bad. If that doesn’t work just look at Julie Andrews winking.



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